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Which 'self' matters to you?

Updated: Apr 1, 2022

I was listening to the Martha Beck on Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic podcast, and she said something that caught my attention. Martha said that our brains are wired with two sides -- the social-self and the essential-self. Much of the emphasis in our brains is on the social-self and geared toward taking social ques from others and to do what is expected of us, or what pleases others. The essential-self is our inherent self, the deep part of us who makes us each unique.

So, you have two choices each day -- do what society says or do what your essence says? You have to choose; are going to imitate or create? Those are the only two options. If you stop and ask, 'what is my essence yearning for?' it means you would pay close attention to what you are interested in. The less you choose to imitate and the more you choose authenticity, you become more powerful and courageous and are able to face your fears in a new way with resilience and grace.

The art journal page that I created above shows the two choices and how they play out. If we only choose imitation (social-self) on the left, our creativity is stifled and our growth is stunted. We grow in a straight line in the way that's expected of us. But, if we choose our essence, our growth flourishes, but not in the way you would expect. Like the plant in the painting, it's winds around and loops in unexpected ways. Notice that the social-self side is dark and the essential-self side is in the light. I know that when I am focused on my essential-self, the world feels like a lighter place.

So, I will leave you with these thoughts and questions -- what could you do to bring the two selves closer together? How can you bring your gifts to the world in a way that honors your essential-self? What does that bring up for you?

As I think about this question for myself, The Living Art Journal feels very much like bringing my two sides closer together. The social-self says create art to sell. My essential-self says create art to tell a, that's where the idea of The Living Art Journal came from. I hope you'll join me for the next post. Subscribe below to receive a weekly summary in email of my posts.

Until then, much love to you and thanks for joining me on this journey!



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